My friend is 50 years older than me; We have a lot of common denominators

When I first moved to Charleston, South Carolina with my husband and child, I didn’t know anyone.

Living in a bridge community from palm island was a dream, not only for palm trees and easy access to the beach, but because here I met someone who turned out to be one of my best friends. Someone was 50 years older than me.

Tony has an elegantly decorated apartment in our region and participated in society at that time. It was occupied by creating a free free library in the library area of ​​the population only when I came to stop using the computer. Our common love for books has called for our first conversation, and the rest, as they say, is history.

During the past six years, our friendship has flourished

Although Tony proudly describes her “adopted daughter”, we share laughter, makeup tips, conversations from heart to heart and book recommendations, such as my colleagues and I do it. She is a young heart, full of mercy, wisdom and a lot of abundance of life well.

It has no agenda to transfer advice or facilitate growth in my life as the guide does, although these things are often secondary products for our relationship, as in many close friendships. She is a real companion, someone I can invite to contact political problems, invite a performance in the local theater, or send a few chapters from the last writing project in exchange for her studied comments.

This year, she was 84 years old, and reached 34 years old, and while we confessed to the 50 -year gap between us, it was almost difficult to believe.

When we are together, we laugh and attach to the knees, our souls look the same, which are the years you get rid of. Simply by sharing her life with me, she helped me launch many of my aging fears, inspired by her audacity, joy and curiosity. It has shown me that the adventures of life can continue well in the 1980s, as long as you have an open and courageous mind to continue new experiences.

In 84, they are still 34, and all other ages between them. Age is only a number, and despite the years between us, we are both more than different.

Friendships between valuable generations

There is something special about falsifying friendship with a person of a different generation, creating a unique opportunity to learn from each other. Abandoning the biases and stereotypes related to aging can help you to be more available to develop meaningful links with people of different age groups.

Just as Tony helped me embrace the aging process and look to the elderly, it has already doubled her young soul. We are encouraging each other in very different life seasons.

The presence of friendship in the age gap has caused this difference in my life. At the end of the day, it may be less than the age gap and more than that of cute spirits – without noise from the inside.

Heather Rose Artosin He is a writer who has more than a decade of the published experience and the passion of social justice.