This is the way you should move in difficult situations at work

Work is filled with difficult moments – a work colleague, a president who ignores your thoughts, unrealistic demands from stakeholders, and a problem that highlights more than expected.

Such moments often cause strong feelings of anger, harm, frustration, despair, self -doubt, reduce self -value and insufficient.

Instead of dealing with the situation with a clear head, we left our emotions to determine how we think and how we behave.

We are either:

1. Ignore the problem for a long time, which messes with our head and interferes with our ability to focus and do our best.
2. It interacts in ways that make the problem worse.
3. Our frustration started on others who are not associated with our problem, but it is easier to target it.

Excessive reaction or lack of procedure breaks confidence and harms relationships, which makes it difficult to cooperate and accomplish work. Problems that could have been solved in one conversation still exist with endless discussions. The deadlines extend, the stakeholders turn to anxiety and the commercial goals are missed.

Learning to move in difficult situations is a skill that can be mastered by developing the correct mentality and practicing the right strategies.

The most difficult of your time often leads to the greatest moments of your life. He continues to progress. Difficult situations build strong people in the end.

– Roy Bennett

Whether this is a contradiction with ideas, conflict of view, or conflicting interests, tackling problems in time can provide you with misery. Less deviations will leave you with no conflicts that have not been resolved with more time and energy to do the important work.

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Your mind is a drama search machine-it tends to exaggerate and detonate things.

He loves to cook stories, gives you a central work in every story, and takes over the worst possible results.

So, although your mind can alert you when facing a difficult situation, it can make you act in reverse ways Distinguishing reality And makes you believe in things that are not present.

You may assume that your workshop has come out for you when they differ.

When you cannot find a solution to a complex problem, you can fill you with self -doubt.

When you end up to upgrade, you may assume that your manager is biased instead of focusing on the skills that you lack and what you have to do to improve it.

Watching the situation based on your prior concepts and beliefs makes you ignore alternative solutions and other possibilities.

These biases, which were left without deterrent, can interfere with your ability to think clearly and solve problems.

We build our beliefs, often unconsciously, and then carry the prisoner. They can help us focus and make us more effective, but unfortunately, they can also limit us: they baptize us to possibility and subject us to fog, fear and doubt.

Dave Gray

Finding a solution to a difficult problem requires approaching reality and facing the facts of your situation instead of driving with your biased rulings and wrong beliefs.

Some questions to help you approach reality:

• What about the situation makes it difficult for you?
• What feelings do you feel? How do these feelings interfere with your ability to think clearly?
• What biases may prevent you from exploring alternative views?
• What do others who are not in your position think about the challenges you face?

He separated from the right to error in a difficult position to focus on what matters.

Abandoning the victim’s mentality

When you face a difficult situation, Adopting the victim’s mentality It can prevent you from thinking clearly, finding solutions, and moving forward. Assuming that others are the source of your problem can prevent you from taking responsibility and feeling controlling your results.

Difficult situations come with many unknown and challenges. Mobility requires that they become a high parent.

The high agency revolves around finding a way to get what you want, without waiting for the conditions to be perfect or blame the conditions. Persons with high agencies either pushing the confrontation of adversity or are able to reverse them to achieve their goals. Either find a way, or spoil the way.

It is a feeling of controlling your behavior, decisions and actions in forming your life instead of relying on external conditions, conditions and environment to determine what you can and what you cannot do.

Instead of looking at the borders of others as their own borders and installing them inside a box based on what others see as possible, high people expand their borders of influence, pushing themselves to move in unknown lands, and do the necessary work for success.

High agency It is not related to expelling negative feelings by saying things like: “Be positive!” , “Expressed that and continue!” Or “Look on the bright side.” It is not a matter of hiding uncomfortable feelings or providing false reassurance. High agency is the necessary optimism to move in difficult circumstances. It is the courage to act despite the feeling of these feelings; Stay optimistic about the real survival.

To become a big person in the agency, you do not need special talents or knowledge. All you need is:

• An unimaginable engine to find solutions instead of complaining about the problem.
• When you fail or make errors while moving in a difficult situation, you are very disappointed like anyone else, but do not let disappoint hinder action or make progress.
• Use your network well. Ideas of brainstormingAnd ask for advice. Ask for help when you need it.

Jim Dithmer calls this “Take the radical responsibility.”

When we blame, we define an issue and monitor our lives outside ourselves. When we take responsibility, we define the reason for our lives and control it within ourselves.

Jim Deathir

In a difficult situation, good solutions begin to appear when you take responsibility rather than blame someone or anything else for your position.

Strategic environment and plan

Jumping to a difficult situation without a strategy is a foolish error. A hastily acting to repair the situation without planning can make it worse.

Your default reaction to the difficult situation is often directed towards the short term-you are thinking about the best at the present time to calm the situation or make your pain disappear.

But immediate gratification, whatever it is good, may likely lead to a choice with long -term negative consequences.

You may refuse to speak even when you do not agree because keeping calm feels safe.

You may have a great opportunity because you worry about failure and look incompetent.

You may cry again to an angry workshop instead of dealing quietly in the situation.

You act in a way that is not in your interest because your mind on the automatic pilot most of the time makes these decisions to you.

When we pursue instant gratification, we make options for many irresponsible reasons and based on bad thinking. . . Or no logic at all. It takes time and self -control to take information, allow people to reveal their true personality, be consistent and disciplined, and give conflicts time to work. Delaying the gratification means working to become more aware and humble enough to admit that our first impulsion is not always smart.

– Devon Franklin

To deal with difficult situations well, you need to consciously intervene and control your decisions instead of letting your mind take responsibility.

To do this, when facing a difficult situation:

1. Think about the required final state. How does success look like? What do you want to achieve?
2. A list of multiple options to achieve these results with positives and negatives.
3. Consider the effect of each option in the future.
4. Choose the option that highlights with long -term positive results even if in the short term looks frightening or more difficult than other options.
5. When there are multiple risks, develop a b.

Even when you need to respond at the present time and you have no time to return and reach a strategy, following these steps in your mind quickly can increase the possibility of choosing a better option.

Strategies can be put on the best way to deal with your position to open creative options that are impossible to stop and think.

Expect what is unexpected

Do not announce difficult situations before appearing. They come out correctly when you don’t expect it at least.

When you are not mentally ready to deal with what is unexpected, any deviation from natural or even simple change in your circumstance can make you very anxious, distort your ability to think clearly, and choose bad options for you or not in your favor.

What if the company that offers the third party program you use to launch the product is turned off?

What if in the middle of the presentation, a technical defect prevents you from displaying your presentation content?

What if at a meeting, someone starts screaming or throwing notes accusation to you?

What if you have a deadline tomorrow and your computer system stops?

What if the product you worked hard to build well was not received by others?

All these situations, if not very possible, are at least possible. They can get rid of your path by getting rid of your sense of controlling the situation, which makes you act in undesirable and ineffective ways.

In life, there will be times when we do everything correctly, and perhaps even exactly. However, the results will be negative in one way or another: failure, lack of respect, jealousy, or even loud yawning from the world. Depending on what motivates us, this response can be crushing.

– Ryan vacation

The best way to deal with difficult situations at work is by preparing to “expect what is unexpected”.

Think in advance about everything that could make a mistake and create a mental solution in your mind using the scenarios “What if” to be less surprising than expected.

You cannot predict the future, but you can plan it. You cannot control unconfirmed results, but you can be better prepared to focus on controlled results.

When dealing with difficult situations, thinking in the worst that can happen can raise the pressure by relying less on the results and putting more focus on this effort.

summary

1. We have a tendency to distort reality to a copy that corresponds to our rulings and beliefs. When you face a difficult situation, it can prevent you from sticking to your biases from facing the facts and the reality of your situation. To deal with a difficult situation, a separate reality from imagination. Distinguish between truth and stories of your cooked mind.

2. Your virtual reaction to the difficult situation may be a feeling of impotence, despair and impotence. Looking at yourself as a victim of your circumstances can prevent you from finding solutions and moving forward. To deal with a difficult situation, and to shift from blame and complaint to possess radical responsibility and endurance.

3. Difficult situations often cause strong negative feelings. When you respond to a difficult situation without temporary suspension and thinking, your immediate reaction is to choose the options that make these negative feelings disappear. This makes you tend to short -term solutions that are not in your interest when displayed from a long -term perspective. To move in difficult situations, abandoning immediate gratification in favor of long -term goals.

4. Difficulties appear when you don’t expect them at least. Not ready to deal with them can increase stress and anxiety, which makes you act in undesirable and ineffective ways. A mentally willingness to accept that things can go wrong can keep you calm and help you find creative ways.

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