Remember the self and self -experience: a paradox for the infiltrators of happiness

In the hadith of Ted below, Dr. Daniel Kahanman, The behavioral economy penetrates, explains how our happiness is determined and sometimes defined by what it describes as two Souls.

The way the story ends

We must be aware of the way the story ends in our memories. The bad end can make us Remember the self Not permanently satisfied with a very happy experience. So, It is necessary to identify a negative end and divide it in what will be a narration of memory.

Story time

Between Panama and Colombia, there are 300 islands that were strangely deleted on Google Maps – or any other maps that I saw in the southern Caribbean.

Personal experience:In 2012, I took one of the most wonderful holidays in my life. While traveling from Central to South America, I spent four days in the Saint Palace Islands (between Panama and Colombia). It was the time to relax on sunny beaches, where he met the local population on the islands (until learning a little of their language), eating great food, drinking wonderful wine and the Romans from fire, making new friends, and diving in clear water. However, it ended with two somewhat disastrous events: 1) At the border crossing, a passport was almost assembled due to water damage, and 2) on our first night in Colombia, we were stolen.

When these two negative events occurred, I made a conscious decision to classify them as just a part of the risk of travel and not included in my mental novel to spend the San Blas Islands.

Reactions are memory expectations – Our king Remember the self Responsible for decision -making Based on the expected memories of the future. We derive a lot of happiness from these Nabataeans are self -fulfillmentSo if there is a decision you need to make, imagine that you are happy in the future, while thinking about the decision.

Spending time with the people you love – And who makes you feel satisfied with yourself. that it The most important factor in happiness is measurable.

Make it up to $ 60,000 – It turns out that money buys happiness, however The association of happiness to income is related to $ 60,000 a year For Americans and other similar countries. So, do whatever it takes to get your income to $ 60,000 annually, but then, focus on other areas of your life to increase happiness.

Thought experience

At the end of the holiday, all your photos will be destroyed, and you will receive a drug that gives you memory loss. All your memories will be destroyed on the holiday. Will you choose the same activities?

If so, it clarifies a big difference between the method Remember the self and Self -experience Perception of happiness.

My question to Dr. Kahanman is, do Biological happiness and health are more associated with self -experience or remember? Should we focus, as biologists, on increasing experimental happiness or creating happy memories?

0:30 – More than 40 books have been published in the past five years with happinessIn the title; Happiness is precisely discussed
1:07 – The first trap of happiness is a frequency in confession of complexity; WordhappinessGeneral, and we need to adopt a more complex point of view
1:30 – The confusion of the second trap between experience and memory, being happy in your life and happiness in your life
1:50 – The third trap that focuses illusion, we cannot think of any well -being worker without distorting its importance.
2:55 – The two breaths; theSelf -experience (Nowadays), Remember the self(Maintains the degree of our life). They are very different.
3:45 – The idea of ​​happiness is confused between the two souls.
5:30 – An example of medical operations: When the story or memory that ended with pain is negatively, the entire dialogue is
6:50 – The end of the story makes the biggest difference.
7:20 – The length of the psychological present is about 3 seconds.
7:40 – andRemember the selfIt focuses only on a very few of these
8:08 – The biggest difference between the two breaths is to deal with the time.
9:00 – andRemember the self He is the one who makes decisions, Self -experienceIt has nothing to do with decision -making process.
9:40 – We think about our future as expected memories. We live in tyrannyRemember the self.
11:15 – Thought experience: At the end of the holiday, all your photos will be destroyed, and you will receive memory loss. All your memories will be destroyed on the holiday. Will you choose the same activities?
13: 56- Happiness of a person to a moment (Self -experience) It can differ radically from the happiness they feel when they think about their lives ( Remember the self).
14:50 – The biggest happiness factor is to spend the time with the people we love.
15:00 – We should not think about happiness as a substitute for well -being.
17:17 – HappinessSelf -experience For Americans, less than 60,000 dollars/annual are not satisfied, not exceeding $ 60,000/annually that does not buy happiness for you – Self -experienceThe chart of happiness goes flat.

The paradox of happiness is that the more follow -up and anxiety about happiness, the less happy you are. I explain why here …