Our son was four years old when we had twins; Avoid jealousy is a priority

We have a house full of children – three of them, precisely.

Before the twins came, we have the largest enjoyed four years of unprecedented attention as a spoiled child. It was a world center, my little shadow.

When the twins reached, he was really excited to meet his new brothers. Even joking, “It is a great thing to have two children. One can hunt and the other can play during bats!”

Behind the smile, however, I felt calm anxiety in his eyes, and one of our biggest fears became how we adapted to our participation with two newborns. The shift in the dynamics of the family would undoubtedly be a challenge, and we knew that we should be attentive, not only for children, but of the same importance to its emotions.

Over the past ten years, we have learned some things and made conscious, thoughtful options – the options that have helped prevent jealousy, and make sure that all our three children are appreciated, and that they are deeply associated with each other.

The approach was not one time repair but a series of small small options that made the difference. Here is how we moved to the move.

We make small moments number

With two newborn children’s student with continuous care, we knew how important it was to move them simultaneously with our oldest child every day. Whether he reads his favorite book, plays a quick game, or just chatting about his day, these little moments have helped reassure him that he is still “our little child.”

I also made it clear that she was available when he returned from school, just sitting with him while lunch and talking about his day. This little routine reminded him that his own place in my life has never changed and never did so.

We asked him to help sponsor twins

We have also been keen on our greatest indicators in caring for twins. From the start, I encouraged him to help with simple tasks suitable for age, such as choosing clothes for them or bringing diapers. This not only made him feel important, but also allowed him to develop a bond with his new brothers. The older brother was proud of, which helped him to feel that he is running and value.

We were keen to verify the validity of his feelings

One of the important parts of the transition was our greatest reassuring that our love was not divided, but doubled. Looks like clichés? maybe. But trust me, small – apparently clichés – caused a big difference. Even when the twins needed attention, we were keen to register with him and express our appreciation for his patience.

However, there were moments that felt frustrated or left, and sometimes he ignored his emotional needs. I remember him, saying: “They cry a lot … maybe we should return them to the doctor.” I reassured him that children sometimes cry because they are young and still learn how to act. I also reminded him of the joys of the presence of siblings, like how they smiled at him when they saw him, and we talked about the pleasure they were playing together and the special association he would share.

We knew that we were playing the long game

Our final goal was to care for a strong brother’s bond. With the growth of twins, we emphasized property rights and respect in our families. The largest was the responsibilities, but we also gave him the authority that comes with the oldest. We taught him to love and be nice with his younger brothers, and we made sure that the twins learned to respect and love their older brother. When conflicts arose, we listened to all parties and took decisions without discrimination.

Over time, the twins naturally formed a strong bond with each other, but fortunately, they also developed a strong bond with the same extent with their older brother. Now, they talk, exchange things and play together and have their own secrets, and even run their small conflicts on their own. Watching this was joyful, and fills me proudly to see the private communication they created.

It is an ongoing journey

There is no doubt that the arrival of the twins is not dynamic our family, but it also brought a tremendous joy. Watching my children was growing and linking them, as individuals and as siblings, an incredible experience.

Preventing jealousy is a continuous journey, but by making small intended options and promoting arrows, I can see that they are now sharing in a deep and supportive bond with each other. They are not just siblings, but also friends, and I am sure that this connection will only increase strength.