I want to raise my children to be independent; My husband is their children

I am a woman from South Asia, who grew up in the crucible of melting New Delhi, the capital of India. As a person who is a trainee thinking with international exposure since childhood, I grew up in the experience of different cultures, views and backgrounds.

My husband, on the other hand, grew up more conservative and now has a traditional look at life and culture.

Before marriage, we discussed our backgrounds, but we did not explore how our differences will affect paternity and motherhood. We have naively thought that love would invade any problems we faced.

But these differences have leaked to how we raised our children, causing some issues.

I want my children to be independent and become socially responsible people

I have two children: my 16 -year -old daughter, and my son is eleven years old. I raise them to be independent children. I want them to think and defend themselves – and do not rely on anyone for anything.

Leaving my children complete their home duties independently. I am not constantly hovering over them to ensure their work. I also do not float or run after them. I am trying to teach my children to be responsible and questioner.

From an early age, help my children all over the house. They helped me put clothes in the washing machine, wash the cabinets, and clean the tables. My children also love help while cooking or bread.

I also teach them to be free and independent thinkers. Unlike the typical Indian parents who want their children to become doctors or engineers, I want them to follow the fields they feel – do not become my husband and I want them to be.

My children realize a world that goes beyond the limited view of the world they see in India and can suit international citizens. I take them to museums, zoos animal, and about. She allowed them to read a selective collection of books to expand their minds.

I think social responsibility begins at an early age. My children volunteered with me, planted the seedlings, and spent time with the elderly in an old house.

My husband, on the other hand, wants to extinguish our children

The background of my husband has affected the preservation of paternity and motherhood. He wants our children to be completely dependent on him. He also wants to make all their decisions.

My husband still feeds our son and sometimes our teenage daughter. Both are old enough to feed himself.

My husband goes out with shopping and abandoning them. He wants to provide them with everything he did not have during his upbringing.

In addition, I don’t like the idea of ​​my children to be on digital devices for long hours, but my husband allows them to stay away from anything. Both have phones, laptops and Xbox devices. I prefer to transfer them to magic worlds through books, play table games, or do art and crafts.

Our differences in paternity and motherhood created some friction in our relationship

From time to time, my husband and I have faced positions in which we clash on how to raise our children, which leads to friction in our marriage. Sometimes, our differences in arguments cause us, so we constantly discuss our views to ensure our understanding of each other.

Since my mother and father are not always on the same page, my children notice and sometimes they benefit. When they do not make their way with a parent, they often go to the other.

In the end, I know my husband and just want the best for our children and I will do our best to present it. Although my children get a mixture of patience and motherhood, I know that they will become successful adults at the end.