I send a text message to people in my life a lot and very quickly to verify health

A few months ago, I was in the wake of an incredible first date. I and I have been the text messages the next morning to prepare a second date, and we were looking to re -call within a week.

The next day, I had the desire to send a text message to it on an unnecessary joke in our history, expecting a quick response. After two days of silence, I received a lukewarm, “Sorry, I thought I was, haha.”

Although its text did not need an explanation deeply, the insomnia in the hours waiting to follow was open.

I realized that I had a constant problem with the exchange of a disaster text, which indicates a greater problem with health verification.

I have sabotaged many possible links with text messages

Whether it is an interest in dating, job opportunity or a new friend, I am always excited to accelerate a great communication opportunity. For this reason, I have always written a text message repeatedly and I expect it to be direct, accurate, and most importantly, directed.

I know that I am not the only person to get important text conversations, but I often face anticipation on the Day of Resurrection while waiting for a text – or a discussion if I should send one.

While it is true with all contacts, I noticed it in particular in my romantic life. In the early stages of dating, there were more than two cases where the first date was great, and the second date was strengthened, but in the silence between the first and second date, I feel the need to send an internal joke or check. This clinging may seem.

Six years ago, for example, a girl one day told me that she no longer wanted a second date because I have sent a text message to her constantly while working. I am sure that many others, including friends, think the same way.

I knew that I had a change

The repercussions of this last date are generated by Yorica moments. I realized that I needed to control two main textual messages: my motivation to the text over, repeated and anxious when people do not immediately send. I tried to treat it with a few steps.

First, I had to meet my need to agree and my desire to fill my time with the company of others. I am now trying to be comfortable for my time alone and suppress the need to communicate with people.

Secondly, I closed my phone and used “Don’t bother” so as not to take a peek on that, waiting for the red number on the messaging application to increase. This reduces my anxiety when someone does not send immediately. I am now just checking the responses when they are comfortable for me.

I also had to learn that the response of someone is slow

I am now trying to remind myself that the rhythm of text messages to people has nothing to do with. There is a lot in playing.

Some people respond to a text during the first hour, while others take their time. Everyone has different relationships with their phones. Likewise, they may have read this and forgot the response because they were especially busy.

There are also many unpopular rules when it comes to dating. The dates tend to keep you a distance, especially at first, because they do not know you yet. I remember myself that it is good to give them this space.

I hope that my adult life does not take me to know all this. But since text messages began a few months ago, I managed to focus inward instead of waiting for the approval of others. I no longer want to endanger a new romantic communication or friend.