when Genetic test results She revealed that I was pregnant with a girl, and I and her father spent the first third to speak enthusiastically about the first and medium names. Like the expected parents, we have canceled a barrage of competing names back and forth, and soon they overturned any strong negative reaction to. The list of the first names we liked alike was short, but by the third third of pregnancy, we agreed on one we loved.
We did not talk about her last name in great detail. Although there is No statistics at the country level On the number of children given a title other than their parents, the actual custom of couples of two different sexes in the United States remains still.
Suppose his daughter will take his last name. I assumed that my daughter will take his last name and that I will be married at the end, then we will have three of us a family name.
I was wrong.
He left about 6 months after her birth
In the delivery room, while I was still exhausted from Section C emergencyWe got a record visit from the hospital staff about the birth certificate. Since I was not married to my child’s father, the employee stopped temporarily and asked if we were sure of the paternity. None of us competed. I put his last name on the birth certificate behind the first and middle names that we carefully chosen on behalf of our newly born daughter.
I, my mother, is new with Doula, the birth plan, and many people who are covering Motherhood leave at workLeaving vital details uncomfortable: How will I feel with the last name different from my only child? It turned out to be more complicated than I expected.
My child’s father himself excused our romantic relationship about six months after her birth. Leave me with a broken heart and a daughter bearing the latter’s name completely different from my country. Along with the shock of life in life unexpectedly as a single mother with a baby, I was realizing the repercussions of the presence of a daughter without the name of my family: passport problems, school registration, and a feeling of general separation when I said her full name loudly.
All the work that disappeared in its name, differs from me
And since I am honest here, Summoning it only in the name of the previous family, I felt as a betrayal For all physical and emotional work, I did the pregnancy and postpartum. How did you disappear in the name? And less important but still important: I love my last name better than her father’s last name. It is easy to spell and pronounce. Looks nice with her first name. I am proud of my last name. Certainly, I have the last father’s name, but as well as my mother. It is our family name. My child’s father did not want to get a family with me – something he did not decide until after our birth. I had the name of the family remorse. But I thought I had to live with her.
We agreed to add my last name to its name
I consulted the family lawyer and learned that In the state of Wisconsin (Where my daughter was born), it is free to change the name of the child during the first 12 months of their lives. A year later, the name change requires a hearing of the court and fees. She talked to her father about her last name to include me and him. He agreed, and filled the papers online.
Her new birth certificate (and ultimately a passport) reached the mail with her new connection. At the age of two, my daughter’s last name became legally connected, as a compromise for her father and for me. If I could do something to name again, I would put my last name on her birth certificate in the hospital and told her father that we can change it to the name of a family if that day comes.
I made peace with my daughter’s last name and moved to other challenges and maternity joys. When you are adults, I will talk to her about how and why her last name was changed. If you want any changes, I will help them in the leaves.
