Gay man, married a straight woman, says he is not a “lavender marriage”
- He married a gay man and a straight woman after they were together for eight years.
- Jacob Hof and Samantha Win Greenston in the marriage of “Mixed Trend”.
- BI check with them after 18 months from our first interview to know their marital life.
Gay and without examples of successful marriages in his family arose, Jacob Hove did not think he would have ever married – not to mention a woman.
But in November last year, Hof, 31, married his long girlfriend, Samantha Win Greenston, 37.
When Business Insider spoke to the spouses residing in Los Angeles in 2023, they made it clear that they were in a relationship of “mixed orientation”, which means that they had different sexual orientations. Hof gay man, green stone straight.
The trained artists started as the best friends, but they started dating in 2017 when Greenstone confessed that she had romantic feelings for Hove and realized that he felt the same way.
They were now eight years together in a unilateral relationship, and they decided to link the node last year.
BI discovered them to ask about their wedding ceremony, their future plans, and whether the way others see has changed.
Hoff and Greenstone mode their “camp” seal on the wedding traditions
Hove and Greenstone got married after they were together for eight years.
Yaqoub Hof and Samantha Wayne Greenstone
After a long time, marriage looked like the next natural step, Hove.
Greenstone is a Jew, so Hof turned and married at the Kabala Center in Boca Raton, Florida.
The wedding ceremony was distinguished by traditional Jewish elements, such as his tinquet, which is the umbrella of the couple’s stopping during the ceremony, and a marriage agreement that defines the financial responsibilities of his wife.
“But then we added members of our camp and made them really unexpected,” Hove said.
He said that he walked in the corridor to “screaming the blood” from the soundtrack, “Phantom of Opera”, while Greenston pledged to go to the favorite Mexican Hoff Restaurant whenever he wanted.
“All we did at the wedding ceremony felt was authentic and opposite our characters,” Grenston said. “But it was also important for us to keep some traditional elements. For example, we loved the idea of not seeing each other in our wedding clothes.”
“But I was there when she was getting her hair and makeup, so there was a balance,” Hove added.
Hoff and Greenstone in “Mixed Mixing Marriage” and say they are in great love.
Yaqoub Hof and Samantha Wayne Greenstone
No “lavender marriage”
The term “lavender marriage” is used to describe a union in which one of the partners or both LGBTQ+is used, but it is married for the safety or comfort of appearing as two different sexes.
Hoff and Greenstone says the sign does not apply to their relationship.
“We are really a single spiritual colleagues,” Hove said. “I am 100 % absent from our marriage. So I say that we are in a” marriage to lavender “, I think, he is really robbing, and it is just people who love each other who are not what they are. Marriage of lavender feels like a marriage of comfort in exchange for a marriage of pure pure love like us.”
He previously told Bi that he finds Greenstone “very beautiful” and that physical intimacy is “deeper, richer and more satisfactory” because his attractiveness to her is not just “the level of the surface.”
Hof defines as gay and says his attractiveness to Greenstone is “one -time”
The marriage did not change anything for Hove and the green stone, unlike the consolidation of the “spiritual” relationship with a contract.
Hof said he made others take them more seriously. For Greenstone, it is important for her husband to stick to his identity as a gay man because of the work they had to do to be “out and proud” in their dynamism.
Hove still uses the “gay” brand because he gets to know the homosexual culture and its attractiveness to Greenstone is “one time”, he told BI in 2023. He said “he can never imagine with another woman.”
Joe Court, a psychologist in the field of sex and a specialist in mixed trend marriages, previously told that he was called “gay in addition to one”.
And that is when the man is gay, but he is emotionally attracted and is run by his female partner – just as someone may be with a partner that is not of its usual type.
The couple plans to open up to their nationalities with any children they may have.
Yaqoub Hof and Samantha Wayne Greenstone
Greenstone still knows that it is of two different sexes, but it is considered a strange relationship because, for her, it means “going out outside the world of what society considers natural.”
The couple plans to be honest in their relationship if they have children.
Hove said: “My idea is just raising a child with knowledge that I am gay. I think it will be normal as long as he is not hidden. They will understand from an early age that gay, like my father has brown eyes.”
Normalization of different relationships
The couple says they are very public about their relationship to help in normalizing these arrangements.
“It is good to share it,” Hove said.
The couples have called them in similar sites to get advice. However, Greenston said she is not comfortable with advising for other women to follow their gay friends, because they may not be attracted to them, and secondly, because she does not want anyone to feel pressure on a direct relationship.
She said, “We are not dedicated,” we go and marry your best gay friend. “” We only want people who find themselves in a mixed relationship to go to see that longevity. “