- I have a close association with my children – especially with my only daughter, who has just started the college.
- She often calls her professors to see if she is fine and whether she is working well in the classroom.
- My daughter wants me to respect her borders, but I suffer.
I was always my mother. Since my children were young, I wanted to be there for all the moments of interest.
With my husband’s work most of the time, I and I were just me, so we have developed an unbreakable bond.
Although I never wanted to grow up my sons and daughters, they flew, and they were in adolescence at any time.
Of course, my children are older, and I was not worried about them. Complete the school, went out, and left my daughter and I was a motive for ourselves. It was until my university daughter started, and now I suffer to give up.
I was always an observer of my daughter
Like my children, my daughter came in her age and registered in college. The decision to live away from the house hit me very much because it means that I had to cut the rope.
For many years, you were the person who care for everything you need. I know the symbols of successes and credit card number.
I had a good reason to focus on my daughter’s welfare because she is my only girl. I have always been protected by this fact, and while my children could always take care of, I think it’s different with my girl.
I cannot reduce my grip on it even though she is in college now
The vision of my daughter to the college was sweet and bitter. In the month or first month, you are constantly worried about how it works – whether it will be entitled to intimate friends or if you will find their way on campus.
My only logical conclusion was to keep the tabs on it. I call the College College regularly.
Like any of the parents concerned, she contacted her university professors several times and asked her if she attends all her chapters and if she looks sad. I also keep up with its degrees. Listen to her professors that she is fine is the only thing that comforts me sometimes.
I also reviewed to make sure that her washing has ended.
I focus on being involved in her daily life even though she lives away from home.
Although my daughter is unable to efforts, desperate times call for desperate measures.
My daughter is now asking about the space
My excessive courage has been in our relationship because she feels that I do not give her the independence she wants very much.
I fight for the sake of rationalization with how she thinks and I go beyond her to verify her because I care. Any mother will tell you that the risks are always high when it comes to our children.
Even when we do things that others do not understand, they are usually in the interest of our children.
However, conversations with my daughter gave me an opportunity to reassess myself and my actions. I think I am afraid to allow her to leave and lose her in this process. I have little control over her life and realized that she did not need me as it was. She is no longer a little girl but she grows into a smart and independent young woman.
I try to give up
I learned that excessive management of our children removes feelings of competence and independence, which works against their relationship with us. I do not want to risk this with my daughter, so I learn to give her the space she needs in school.
We have had follow -up talks to find out what they are fine and where you feel that I am bypassing the boundaries. This was an important step in understanding what you need and setting where you feel unknown or uncomfortable.
These changes will not occur overnight, and I am still dealing with the constant desire to verify them at school, but slowly, I learn to stop her life.
