- My biggest year is 14 and a half, and it is not unusual to be ignored, insulted or screaming.
- I try not to take it personally, but I still need a teenager to know that I am there for her.
- Recently, we discovered that we enjoy working together.
As a mother of four girls, between the ages of 7 and 14, I thought I would be I prepared for the years of teenager.
I was very naive.
Teenage daughter Wonderful, funny, messy, opening eye, cheerful but can also be scary.
Unlike all the previous Parents of paternity and motherhoodYou can no longer fade that you have control of anything. Not when your wonderful child is in your height, criticizing a door in your face, ignoring everything you say, or informing you that your clothes make you “look like potatoes”.
I didn’t want to be My child is “Best Friend”. However, it was shocking how different our relationship (apparently overnight), although all the book of paternity and maternity in adolescence warned me that this would happen.
Initially, I took it personally: insults, eye answers, mono answers. Now, I am looking for ways to keep the communication channels open between us.
Like exercising together, which has become one The language of love We both enjoy.
Contact through common feelings
One of the challenges in my relationship with my older daughter is our similarity, one of our material advantages to the characteristics of our personality.
I understand why it is It needs to pay me away. I acted as adolescents.
Although we can communicate through a shopping trip (teenage girls tend to be nice once the Sephora purchasing process is performed, at least for a short time), our common passion for fitness and sports has really gathered.
Move together
When I was a teenager, I wanted to become a professional ballet dancer, and I spent training days at the American Ballet School in Manhattan.
My daughter is a Kricitte player at the boycott level, not a dancer (we live in London), so we are both to understand the importance of a passion for something that you want to live and breathe all the time.
Everyone will not understand focus, discipline, commitment and sacrifice required, but my daughter reminds me of my life.
Last year, my teenager started training in the department as part of its school sports program; It started lifting weights to build strength during menopause. We were practicing in the living room, or that my daughter asked me to throw balls in the backyard. Slowly, we found ourselves in automatic fitness sessions, such as going to individual running or heading to the hotel’s gym on vacation.
Instead of the explosion in a screaming match, we often laugh during these gym sessions. My daughter will give me training tips. I usually beg it to switch to lighter weights (and she ignored me). But somehow, I felt easily – and fun.
These exercises are never related to the appearance of “improvement”, although my daughter has a new speed or a new teacher. We discuss the advantages of being strong instead of thin, but we also know that we are not only practicing for our bodies. With our crowded minds, the exercise is our happy place – calm but stimulating, stimulating, and grounding.
Learn a new language together
The teenage girl often involves your mother’s refusal in some way. I agree with that, but regardless of the number of doors that are criticized in my face, I want to make sure my children always know that I am open.
Communication can seem different from what we expect. When we practice us, silence while I was teenage. Sometimes, I will ask my daughter about the song you listen to; You will wonder if it can “borrow” the top of the exercise that I wear at our next session.
Sometimes, my eyes will smile and smile in the mirror behind it. You also know that I am there to discover it, feel it, and support it – in life, as well as in the gym.
