- I grew up in a strict family that left me afraid and pain to escape.
- I did not want the same fate for my daughter, so I decided to allow parents in the completely opposite direction.
- I left my child to do what she wants, but I am now concerned about the amount of freedom I have provided to her.
I grew up, my childhood has become about escaping from my father’s strict rules and fear of repercussions if I go out of the line.
I did not get freedom and the opportunity to fall, wake up and learn from my mistakes, which is an essential element in developing a person’s identity. Therefore, I made a lot of mistakes in my life, driven by fear.
She got married in 22 years. I divorced at the age of thirty, without any idea of who I was. It took me years to empty my upbringing and discover my self -value. However, the more I learned to master the challenges, the more powerful it becomes, and for this reason, when I had my daughter, the parents decided on the opposite direction of the way you grew up.
I wanted to learn my daughter who she was and what she wanted in life from an early age. I did not want her to be limited to the rules of her parents, as you were, or made the same mistakes she made. Therefore, she greatly allowed her to do everything you like.
I took a completely different approach to paternity and motherhood
Unlike my upbringing, as I did not know much about the past of the migrant’s parents and was not allowed to be allowed or to watch the kissing on television, I did not keep things from my daughter.
You are open to sex, drugs and alcohol. She was aware of my previous mistakes, and told her what she learned from them so that she could make her own informed options.
Instead of telling it what to do, I will discuss the potential risks and put responsibility for it to report – and accept the consequences of their actions.
I am concerned about the amount of freedom that my daughter gave
My daughter is now 18 years old and is preparing to fold her independence and escape from the nest. I can only be afraid of how to raise her made her return to a certain level of freedom that she will expose to the world more than I was of her age.
For example, I am concerned about what it will be when you attend the university and have new people and the experimentation that can bring lifestyle. You may start mixing with potentially dangerous crowds that offer drugs because she feels that she can “deal with it” because she knows “a lot about the world” from my success.
It is also about to obtain a driver’s license I am afraid that the freedom she gave her, along with her lack of driving experience, can bring in reverse results to a bad situation, such as being confident through her leadership and facing an accident.
for me The daughter realizes a lotBut with consciousness, curiosity can come, or even excessive confidence in repetition. She has no problem in giving her opinion on anything, who attracted me on political views to my studies about my relationships.
I was afraid of everything for a large part of my life, allowing others to tell me what to do. My daughter, on the other hand, is afraid of nothing and makes her confident decisions.
I still do not agree with how to raise my parents, but I understand their choices now more than ever and I was humble as a parent. I now know that my father did their best.
With the same difficulty, I do not regret the choices of fatherhood and motherhood
I cannot suddenly impose restrictions on her now after she was eighteen years old, which is the legal age of alcohol, leadership, gambling, and nightclubs in Australia. And I don’t necessarily want.
Regardless of the extent of uncomfortable and challenges now, I do not regret the style of paternity and motherhood.
She was raised by my daughter, the same level of maturity that I did not achieve until the age of thirty.
In addition, openness with it has approached us, as I feel that she will tell me anything. I do not want to endanger this confidence – something that I lack with my father growing up.
